The training that UCASA staff routinely does is stressful in this same way. We are constantly having conversations about privilege, rape myths, victims' rights....and we take alot of heat. Trainings feel like emotional rollercoasters on most days. And like advocates whose job it is to support and offer resources, it means that we are the recipients of alot of anger and venting....something that we can't give back to the person yelling at us. It is the price of the work that we do, and a price of being present in the situation. So, how do you move that negative energy through? Here's some ideas:
1. Breaks.....breaks....and more breaks: Step away from the situation for a moment. Take a quick walk, stretch, move your body in some way. It will allow you to recenter and refocus. A two-to-five minute break from your desk, office, or training room can make a huge difference.
2. Shift the focus: Even though it feels like everything is being directed at you. It isn't. Not really in the way that you are taking it. Legitimately, this is a situation where it isn't about you. You're watching someone be challenged. Appreciate the learning moment that you are now a part of.
3. Remember that this is a process: We can't switch on and off. Sometimes it is harder to shake the emotions off from a situation than it would be on other days. Some days nothing bothers us. Sometimes we feel completely disconnected....or connected too much. Give yourself some room to let it go.
What types of things do you regularly do to move energy through?
